When two people decide that they want to spend their lives with each other, there are many elements to consider. And one thing's for sure : Love as an element by itself is definitely not enough to guarantee blue skies and sunny days.
Sure, it's essential. But it'll be foolish to think that it's all that's needed.
IMHO, the glue that keeps two persons together is what they believe in, how willing they are to fight for their own beliefs and what kind of sacrifices they deem crucial to stay happy together.
So yes, it's a lot of hard work.
You may tell me that you want to wake up next to me every morning. You may tell me that you believe in our love. You may tell me that you'd do anything to keep us happy.
The ultimate question I have for you is : Are you strong enough to walk this path with me?
We both know that the path I have chosen is not popular, nor an easy one. We will encounter challenges and sometimes, even contempt from folks who do not share our beliefs. I know I can stand strong. And will fight the meanest demons to stand by my beliefs. Will you be strong enough to fight your own demons too?
I will be completely honest and tell you that I do not want to spend my life with someone who is constantly stressed about keeping others happy. I know that I will be very adamant about keeping my own happiness above everything else and by that same token, the happiness of my life partner above everything else. Sure we'd compromise on certain things between us but that's where I draw the line. No one else can dictate our definition of happiness. Not family, not friends. No one but you and me.
It doesn't mean that I love them any less. It just means that I love us more, and I know that no one else will love us if we do not love ourselves.
I hope you understand that. And understand it well.
Because without that, there is no We. Just You. And just Me.
So to have a We, there must be a strong You and Me.
I know I am.
Are you?
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